Why your husband hates you
Part 1: A User Manual for the Male Mind
I’ve thought about writing this article for a long, long time, but until now I was too frightened. It’s too easy to be misinterpreted, that’s a lesson I’ve learned from marriage. But there is nothing to gain from walking on eggshells, marriage has taught me that as well.
A message from my sister eventually convinced me to put ‘pen to paper.’ It was simple “I love that you and (your wife) are so happy together.” We are. After 23 years, 10 of them married, I’m still in love. We’ve had our share of good times and more than our share of bad times, but we’ve stuck together. I would say ‘we’re still in love,’ but I know better than to speak for my wife.
Obviously I don’t hate my wife, not permanently. The vast majority of the time I love her. But there are moments when she infuriates me, and I know I do the same to her. Love and hate can coexist, what matters is which is dominant. Hatred is a spark, and the more often it occurs the greater the danger that a fire will start. And that fire destroys relationships. If your husband acts like he hates you, remember that he probably still loves you most of the time, otherwise he might not be around anymore.
I know my relationship is not a good data set, it’s one in a million. The information in this article (and others which will follow) is…
